Okay, you started out in January with a bang, slowed down a little in February and now you’ve quit. What’s Next? Get the magnet! I love our FP4H magnet that says, “Setbacks are temporary but quitting is permanent.” It happens to all of us. You do not want to stay stuck in the feeling of failure. Every time you give up on your wellness journey, you have two choices: keep walking backwards, which will place you even farther away from your goal (If you chose this option, says my husband, Rob, “Make sure your insurance is paid up because you are going to need it!”), or you can take the steps necessary to begin again. What steps do I need to take to start again?
Let go of the slipup. Joyce Meyer says, “We will all fail in life, but nobody has to be a failure. Failing at a thing doesn’t make you a failure. You are only a failure when you quit trying.” Getting healthy takes a great amount of effort and it is hard work. You will not be able to do it all exactly right. Accept the fact that you are not perfect; forgive yourself and start again.
Put your heart into it.Jesus said in Mark 12:30 “Love the Lord your God with all you HEART…” We cannot go into a wellness effort halfhearted. Jesus calls us to wholehearted commitment. He did not go halfway to the Cross. He set his face toward Jerusalem and went all the way to Calvary. And we must do the same. Climb the hill of health and wellness until we reach the summit of what He has for us.
Do what is sustainable. One of the biggest reasons most people quit is that what we are doing is not sustainable. The crazy diet plans and all-out brutal exercises can only last a little while. Eventually, you will get to the point where you say, “I’m done with this” and walk right back into your old habits of overeating unhealthy food and refusing to exercise. A healthy food plan with plenty of variety in proper quantities is a sustainable way to lose weight. Moderate exercise five times a week will go a long way to get you healthy and moving toward your weight-loss goals. That’s our FP4H Live It plan. We call it that because you can live this way for the rest of your life and never quit.
Set reasonable goals. That’s why I love FP4H. You have 12 weeks to get to a reasonable goal. Losing one to two pounds a week is a sustainable weight-loss goal. I can’t look at all the things I need to change in my life. That overwhelms me. Setting small, reasonable goals will get you there step by step.
Keep your eyes on the prize. The Apostle Paul in his letter to the Philippians shared that his life goal was to know Christ and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His suffering (3:10). He stated in chapter 3:13-14 that he had not even come close to arriving. But this one thing he did: pressing on every day toward the goal. As we press on, we keep our eyes fixed on Jesus, the One who started this in us in the first place. He is the One who will help us finish.
It’s time to start again and this time – to the goal.
Vicki is National Director, First Place 4 Health and author of Don’t Quit Get Fit and Wellness Journey of a Lifetime.